Gentle Femdom (GFD) is a form of FemDom (female domination, sometimes FemDomme or FD) that takes a different approach from scene-intensive dynamics. Unlike traditional FemDom—which often embraces sissification, gynocracy, cuckolding, humiliation, or physical “punishment”, GFD is often approached more as a 24/7 relationship (or mimicking that style, in the case of professional dominants) and avoids the harsher philosophy typically associated with “real” Femdom. GFD shifts  "aw

Is it a marketing gimmick?   Is it yet another of the hundreds of flags and ideologies and families?   Is it just another philosophy, stated by another would-be-FetlifeKing, pending approval-and-then abandonment? not hardly. (but we can see how you'd think so) You see, it begins -- as many things do, especially good stories - a long, long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away...  In 2002 our hero, Kenova, moved to follow his afianced (now ex-) into Philadelphia. Creative Kin

AKA – Dr. Seuss and Kinky Emergencies So to start…a VERY bad Dr. Seuss imitation.   Because Dr. Seuss is awesome.     Have you done many dungeons, or played in play places?   Seen a bunch of black benches, or congregations of cages?   I bet you’ve seen walls upon walls of wondrous whips, And all other manner of toys on your many night trips, Canes, crackers, and floggers, all hanging on hooks; And a bookshelf or two of nighttime picture books! But what aren’t you seeing, what

So, things to consider.   All wise-ass-ery aside.  (except for some.   Because I'm, you know, Kenova.  The asshole - but having a beard makes up for it.  Ask half the girls I've spanked.) Rule 1.   If you post it, they will come. They are web crawlers, and post it, meaning put it out there, anywhere.   On your phone.  On a private server.  In an IM to friends one-on-one.  On a memorial site, ten years ago.  In an article that some grandmothers eventually scanned as part of sc

I took a class recently on impact play (every good teacher should also be a student) and came away with some good and some bad.    Mostly bad.  The bad "triggered" me.   It caused my "triggers" to... uh... trigger.   Fingered.   Whatever.   (Sorry, had to do it...the "trigger" phenomenon is just so snark-worthy.  Triggers exist.  90% of what people call triggers aren't.  They are better known as "I'm too immature to be responsible for my feelings...you do it for me!") ahem .

1.    There is more to life than Fetlife.   No matter how many times you check the site, you are not going to be blasted by some blazingly new enlightenment about yourself, or swamped by a ton of sexy bits who suddenly want a taste of you.   Get your ass off of the computer for at least four hours a week - by going to a munch, a class, or a play party. 2.   There is MORE to life than FETLIFE.     If you are basing your opinions on people, fetishes, situations, or claims of...

parenting is a joy, as all parents know - it's a headache, a pain in the neck, and the spine, and occasionally the genitals (they WILL run headfirst into ANYTHING). But there are also moments of joy, especially with two child aspie-s. (aspergers) At Home, Morning Daughter: "Daddy, I wanna go to the steak place with the clams." Cassie: "I didn't know you liked clams, girlie? Kenova: "I guess you could say she digs clams. She's a 'clam-digger'. " Cassie: smacks Kenova Cassi

“A paraphilia must be distinguished from the non-pathological use of sexual fantasies, behaviors or objects as a stimulus for sexual excitement in individuals without a Paraphilia.   Fantasies, behaviors or objects are paraphilic only when they lead to a clinically significant distress or impairment (e.g., are obligatory, result in sexual dysfunction, require participation of non-consenting individuals, lead to legal complications, interfere with social relationships). “   (D

Amish Paradise, yo.   In all seriousness, someone asked me on my blog what I think the most important thing is for a new Dominant.    Having written a “newbie Dominant” post a few months ago, I considered just sending back an email with a link, but that seemed disrespectful. The man took the time to ask me a genuine question – I owe him an authentic (if not as witty as usual) answer.  Should I tell him to invest in rope?   Find a good local mentor?   Only use water-based lub