Begin any paddling session with a bare hand (or softer toy) warm-up.   Unless you are playing with (or are yourself) a heavy masochist, the bottom will appreciate the warm-up, and you’ll enjoy the time getting intimate and familiar with their anatomy.  Safe Word, Safe Word, Safe Word.    When you’ve played with someone for years, you can play without some kind of safe word they can use to tell you to stop.   It’s your job to judge their feedback to know how fast or slow to go

Knife Play – What should you pack (other than the knives)?  These days, everyone’s got their little kits and their little toy bags – and believe it or not, that’s a good thing.   You can pick up a toiletry or makeup box at any Walmart or Target for less than $10, and have everything you need for an entire fetish ready to go to town.   But while you’re packing the toys, don’t forget a few others things for your knife play…   Rubbing Alcohol This should be a no brainer, but the

We're writing this one, because we just feel that they don't get enough love. Things for busting on boy bits, anyway. Good tips and tools for CBT to remember: Long canes are a BAD idea. Seriously. No fine control. Short range Whips require a lot of practice. We've known a few Pro Dommes who learned by practicing with oranges and apples. There's nothing so terrifying as a whip cracking a few inches from your manhood. Just be sure to keep it from getting too close - the air dis