parenting is a joy, as all parents know - it's a headache, a pain in the neck, and the spine, and occasionally the genitals (they WILL run headfirst into ANYTHING). But there are also moments of joy, especially with two child aspie-s. (aspergers) At Home, Morning Daughter: "Daddy, I wanna go to the steak place with the clams." Cassie: "I didn't know you liked clams, girlie? Kenova: "I guess you could say she digs clams. She's a 'clam-digger'. " Cassie: smacks Kenova Cassi

Guys.   Seriously.  This one is from the heart.   (Or as close to one as I have.)   It’s going to hurt at first, but I’m asking you with a genuine plea – stick around until the end.     I’m good with words…but I’m not good at apologies.   I’m a male dominant.   It’s what I am, from my vanilla personality on through my career, and down into my sex life, my marriage, the women in my home, and out throughout the rest of my life.   I don’t play it at a play party, and I don’t dre

Hello.   My name is Kenova.   I am male.   I do a physically demanding job.  I watch naked women dance while drinking beer.   I build things with my hands.  I think a women on her knees is a beautiful, natural sight.   I stare when a girl runs past in yoga pants and a crop top.  I even do it around my girls, and my in-laws and family.   I’ve been known to slow down the car to watch a jogger bounce by who forgot her sports bra.   I overflow with testosterone, and workout on a

“A paraphilia must be distinguished from the non-pathological use of sexual fantasies, behaviors or objects as a stimulus for sexual excitement in individuals without a Paraphilia.   Fantasies, behaviors or objects are paraphilic only when they lead to a clinically significant distress or impairment (e.g., are obligatory, result in sexual dysfunction, require participation of non-consenting individuals, lead to legal complications, interfere with social relationships). “   (D

Amish Paradise, yo.   In all seriousness, someone asked me on my blog what I think the most important thing is for a new Dominant.    Having written a “newbie Dominant” post a few months ago, I considered just sending back an email with a link, but that seemed disrespectful. The man took the time to ask me a genuine question – I owe him an authentic (if not as witty as usual) answer.  Should I tell him to invest in rope?   Find a good local mentor?   Only use water-based lub

AKA – No, You Are Not Lord High Master Sparkly Britches I’m sorry.   This one has been coming for a while, and I keep taking it down to tame it.   To clean it up.   To get some of the ranty taste out of it.  Because I don’t want this to be a curse-filled rant (which it was), ripping new people a new orifice (which it did) for not knowing any better (which they don’t – mostly.) But seriously?    A 21-year-old who identifies as a Master, and identifies himself  as Master <NAME>

We aren't going to agree on everything.   And that's okay. As a matter of fact, that's great.   It's enlivening, empowering and magical.    That's what made the United States into such a unique country in the first place - differences which could be discussed in a (mostly) rational manner, and common ground made into common cause.   You don't have to agree with me.   Many don't.   This isn't a "agree with me, my sycophantic flying monkeys!" kind of blog.    This is a Rant Blo

1. First Aid and CPR. At an event, at the very least, the DM and host should know basic first aid and CPR. (Most of them won’t, be aware.) If you intend to be a worthwhile Dominant, then YOU should know it too. And by “basic”, I don’t mean “we can haz bandajez?”. And by “know it”, I mean you should be an American Red Cross (or military/LEO, or similar organization) certified practitioner. As a former instructor (and once upon a time, a first responder) please believe me – the