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The key to bringing any kink into vanilla life lies in three essential elements: Consent, Constraint, and Complications. First, remember that people around you haven't consented to participate in your scene or play. Even when you're incorporating kink into your daily lifestyle, others haven't agreed to take part. So indulge your kink and its sensations without creating "splash" that forces others to participate. You might not think wearing a dog collar in public is a big deal

Gentle Femdom (GFD) is a form of FemDom (female domination, sometimes FemDomme or FD) that takes a different approach from scene-intensive dynamics. Unlike traditional FemDom—which often embraces sissification, gynocracy, cuckolding, humiliation, or physical “punishment”, GFD is often approached more as a 24/7 relationship (or mimicking that style, in the case of professional dominants) and avoids the harsher philosophy typically associated with “real” Femdom. GFD shifts  "aw

When buying a cane, it's important to know not only what size you want, but what you want to be made out of.  Getting a cane based on looks generally means adding something useless to your credit card bill. As a beginner, there's no point shelling out $80 to $100 for an exotic wood rattan cane (purple heart, zebra wood, paduak), when you're going to have to replace the rattan rod part in 6 months and have neither the skill nor tools to do it.  As an experienced masochist, a b

(The Origin of the Studded Paddle in cK) "But why a spoon, cousin?"  "Because it's dull you twit, it'll hurt more!" -Robin Hood, Prince of Thieves Gods above, I love that quote.   And the sheer maliciousness that just drips from it when Alan Rickman spits it... no one could be maliciously contemptuous like Alan Rickman.   If only we could all replace that "nagging little voice" in the back of our heads with the voice of Alan Rickman (God rest his soul) --- humanity would be l

AKA – Dr. Seuss and Kinky Emergencies So to start…a VERY bad Dr. Seuss imitation.   Because Dr. Seuss is awesome.     Have you done many dungeons, or played in play places?   Seen a bunch of black benches, or congregations of cages?   I bet you’ve seen walls upon walls of wondrous whips, And all other manner of toys on your many night trips, Canes, crackers, and floggers, all hanging on hooks; And a bookshelf or two of nighttime picture books! But what aren’t you seeing, what

30" or leg length is good for... Caning Full, Voluptuous Bottoms Feeling "Like A Boss".   Caning someone who is bound to a caning stand or bench. Making you feel like the Authority on Discipline while stalking around waving it threateningly at your prey.   Full open swings across the body Looking sexy in photography pieces Long straight marks across the round bits Leaving marks like no rattan or rod ever will Striking the fronts of both calves, or both thighs, while the sub i

I took a class recently on impact play (every good teacher should also be a student) and came away with some good and some bad.    Mostly bad.  The bad "triggered" me.   It caused my "triggers" to... uh... trigger.   Fingered.   Whatever.   (Sorry, had to do it...the "trigger" phenomenon is just so snark-worthy.  Triggers exist.  90% of what people call triggers aren't.  They are better known as "I'm too immature to be responsible for my feelings...you do it for me!") ahem .

Porsches are fast, but they suck gas like a whore when the rent’s due.   Mini-vans have great interior room, but they’re “conformist”.   Muscle cars look great and sound great – but you’ll have to do tons of maintenance.   Canes are tools.   So are paddles.   And spreader bars, and bondage furniture, and vibrators and all the other lovely toys we use in our lifestyle.   They have a specific use, a range of sensations they can cover, and a set lifetime.   See if you buy the ch