So, things to consider.   All wise-ass-ery aside.  (except for some.   Because I'm, you know, Kenova.  The asshole - but having a beard makes up for it.  Ask half the girls I've spanked.) Rule 1.   If you post it, they will come. They are web crawlers, and post it, meaning put it out there, anywhere.   On your phone.  On a private server.  In an IM to friends one-on-one.  On a memorial site, ten years ago.  In an article that some grandmothers eventually scanned as part of sc

1.    There is more to life than Fetlife.   No matter how many times you check the site, you are not going to be blasted by some blazingly new enlightenment about yourself, or swamped by a ton of sexy bits who suddenly want a taste of you.   Get your ass off of the computer for at least four hours a week - by going to a munch, a class, or a play party. 2.   There is MORE to life than FETLIFE.     If you are basing your opinions on people, fetishes, situations, or claims of...

AKA, Your Kink is Not My Kink, But Your Kink…is Still Not a Kink, It’s a Paraphilia. Look.   This isn’t an attack on diaper-wearing, monkey-loving, rule 34-waving gym-sock-suckers.   All of that is cool.   No, really.   My cynical, sarcastic phrasing aside, it’s cool.   Go ahead; let your freak flag (privately) fly.   Have your cake, and stick yourself into it too.   Lick the frosting off someone’s toes.   That’s awesome – you’re participating in the American ideal:   Freedom